A woman is considered to be a catalyst in creating love and harmony in the society and she can play a big role in contributing to its social developments. For this, she needs to feel empowered and equal to man from within, which can be inculcated through inner strength and self respect only.

However, even after realising the importance of women in the society, they are taken so lightly. Why is: assault, harassment, abuse, rape like cases increasing in the society?  If she is talking to a guy sharing  personal things, why are fingers pointed towards her character ? if things go wrong, our society would definitely blame a woman's character…  Y short clothes? Y drinking? Y pubs ? etc etc

But what will you say, if I raise a question of sexual harassment of a 6 yrs old girl ? She don't even know how to speak her name properly.

One such incident happened to me too! The first time, it happened, I was 6. The moment he put his hands around my mouth to shut me down, was ironically, the moment I learned to raise my voice. Many a times, I wanted to oppose but, was beaten badly and traumatised along with unlimited warnings. And when the incident came in front of my mother, she broke down. Chain of actions were taken against him.

I wouldn't go to the doctor because I didn't want to be touched. I didn't want to be a part of any social gathering, though it affected my relationships. I still felt affected in deep. That age was genuine and pure but It turned me upside down. My family tried hard to cheer me up in every possible way.  They provided me gifts like dolls, soft toys etc. in making up my mood. But, I get petrified seeing their figures or body parts. The biggest thing it affected, was my perception of body image. It felt terrible.

A woman can never reclaim their body after a sexual assault. It involves great loss of innocence and the loss of living free life. I was even taken up for psychology sessions.

Though these sessions helped me, I was not able to heal completely. Internally, it was making me a hollow soul.

It's been more than 20 years, but seems it was yesterday. The healing journey hasn't been easy, though I am thankful to my friends and family, who bestowed all their love and understand in my recovery journey.

People do think that I am normal and well adjusted but I am sorry to admit, a huge part of mine is still that little girl, in need of a kind and understanding mentor. I am still hiding from whom, i don’t know and with growing time, i am trying to find solace, peace and a sense of safety which got tucked away. I am not able to trust any man except my father. Yet Today  I am brave, loving, funny, confident, matured entrepreneur yet sensitive. This has made me over protective about my best pals. But i think those who have faith in me, will never loose me.

                                “We grow, we mend, we process but we grieve”

I have shared my sexual abuse story though i haven't been so open. Initially I kept it silent but now It's amazing that people choose to discuss over this, express their opinion concerning someone’s experience with such convictions. And that's the right way to look at it. I sensed god wanted me to be bold in sharing about sexual abuse.

Sexual exploitation and harassment is a real problem. People, irrespective of gender, must understand the degree of the problem so that they may be able to solve it. My intentions in writing this content is to make those, who really wanna help, to walk on eggshells. Then only they will be 100% successful. I am sure then at least somebody will definitely be able to “get over it”. I think my content can help someone move out of darkness and into the light...